In a shooting war, the command authority has already thought out its plans. I am picking nits here. It would be the political authority that would be the major "waffler". The military would be very annoyed that their assets moved from advantage for no good reason. Don't pull the trigger unless you intend to destroy something thought process type of thing. The economics and political distrust of such a move is incredible. Moving a fleet, dropping only 1 to 2 bombs and then saying, Oops, I didn't mean it.... The other side has already committed by this time. It would be too late to back out.
With space warfare, at least with current levels of tech, the MAD principle applies. If you are going to use it, use it, because the other side will. There will be no nobility or chivalry in this style of warfare. Do it to them before they do it to us. Detection is the key. EM radiation jamming is not as usefull as it once was. Fiber optic command and control backbones on the ground. Major telescopes of all sorts hooked in. Lased light communications from the ground can issued orders. Nuclear protocol still exists, because once the fleet is launched, then it becomes hard to contact. Jammers themselves look like a bright star in EM. They give away their position. I would use the submariner's trick, move as if you fould yourself a hole to crawl into, then pull it in behind you. I would put effort into running quiet, in a ballistic unpowered orbit with as much absorbtion coating on as I could wear. I would trickle my delta-v a little as I could. I would only hope to never eclipse a heavenly body. Takes time, Yes. Chance of success - far greater than tossing a A-Bomb out my rear to get to where I want to go. I'd save that for when I need to dodge quickly.
Drat, I'm on my high horse again. If they can't see you, they can't find you. Sight occurs in many wavelengths of the spectrum. Detection will be key.