Complex or even intelligent life does not necessarily mean "hell bent on killing us all".
I agree.
Also, I would be incredibly disheartened if only simple life existed elsewhere in the universe. Because complex life is so incredibly exciting, and can teach us so many incredible things, it would really be amazing.
I agree.
Of course, that does not mean that simple life is not also immensely scientifically interesting, which it is.
I agree.
When I talk about meaningful interaction, I mean that we can see they exist, and see how they live. If they are intelligent life, then meaningful interaction could also count as communication.
If there is life elsewhere in this solar system, I would say meaningful interaction can certainly be achieved. We can send a probe to actually go there and watch them, can even take samples and directly interact with it.
If life lies outside the solar system, that is where what I call meaningful interaction becomes the key player, and all the points you bring up about it are certainly valid. The exact paramaters I cannot say, I have not put that level of thought into it, but the basis of the defination would entail that we can see it, observe it, and even try to communicate with it. As distance grows, communication is the first to loose meaning. It quickly becomes blind one way transmissions. But of course communication assumes the life we think is there is also intelligent. If it is not intelligent, then let us not worry about try to talk to the space slugs, but rather try and observe and see if we can figure out what it actually is and how it lives. As distance grows, the more we know is more a subject of history rather than the presence of life. We can make observations, but no way to say what we see still prevails there at the moment, and as distance grows, Special relativity tells us that the concept of NOW becomes more and more "fluid", and makes the idea that this life has really any bearing on our present almost irrelevant.
And the big extreme is if life exists outside the observable universe. This situation has the distance so extremely large that even pondering the idea of life being out there is actually one not worth bothering about.
Now there is a lot of room inbetween there, that light can send us signals that life could exists, or in fact the atmosphere is of such a way that maybe we can be sophisticated enough to determine its composition suggest that life must be there, or better yet, industrial life. That would be the near the outer limit of meaningful interaction. If life exists, and there is no means for us to observe it, then it might as well not exist, and I would go further and say that in the Universe we in habit, it actually doesn't.
It may be a bit too literal bringing of QM reasoning into the macro world, and this I honestly say is a topic that I have jumped from. I used to fully expect one day that life would be found in the universe, and if it wasn't found by us, it still must be out there somewhere. But at the moment, my views are different from that, and I doubt we will find evidence of life elsewhere, and if not found by us, then rather than assume it can still be out there, I consider that possibility a question without and answer, and if a question has no answer, it is not really a question at all.
But the odds are that for us to find a planet with life that orbits one of our neighboring stars is remote. It would certainly be a preferrable outcome, that a measurment is taken and someone can come out and say, look as what I see, this is caused by life on the surface! (preferred only to say NASA's new Mars lab finding fossils or actual life when it probes the Martian surface), but I just don't think we will be that lucky. I would think, that if we ever do find evidence of life, it will be on a far remote world, many many light years away.